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The 2WW (Two Week Wait) from implantation until being able to test for pregnancy can seem like the world’s longest time. Waiting, hoping, wondering, wishing, there is so much emotion that goes into it, and it’s so hard knowing there isn’t much that you really can do to determine the result.

Of course, after throwing so much time, money and heartache into IUI and/or IVF, you’ll likely try any old wives tales, any advice going, that may help. So here’s what we did before our positive pregnancy test – disclaimer of course, none of this is at all proven to make a difference.

However, it can’t hurt, right? So here they are!

1. Pineapple core

Purchase a whole pineapple, and divide into 5 sections. Eat one section per day, starting on the day of implantation (or day of insemination if you aren’t doing IVF). The core of the pineapple is most important to eat, this is said to promote implantation.

2. Brazil nuts

Eat 6 Brazil nuts per day for 6 days, starting on the day of implantation. Brazil nuts are an incredible source of selenium, which is a mineral that helps to thicken the uterine wall, and a healthy lining aids implantation. If you don’t like nuts, as my wife doesn’t, I recommend grounding them up and adding to smoothies – she barely noticed them! Which brings me to my next point-

3. Smoothies

Green smoothies! We packed those babies with the pineapple and brazil nuts as above, as well as a half orange for Vitamin C, banana for potassium, spinach for iron, oats and chia seeds – we got as many nutrients into Sarah as possible per day, and actually continued making and drinking smoothies for her whole pregnancy to try to grow a strong and healthy baby!

4. Rest

Shortly after implantation, within 2-3 days, I couldn’t stop Sarah from sleeping if I had tried. She would nap anywhere, anytime. We quickly adapted so S could nap whenever she felt the need – after all, your body needs lost of rest and relaxation to grow a baby in general! So we would recommend doing as much sleeping as possible.

Some of the naps feature in the funny video we put together you can see in this post.

One thing that had come up a lot in our research was that it was a good idea to keep the womb ‘warm’, and to keep blood flowing to and through it as much as possible. So we channeled that advice into our final two points, 5 and 6:

5. Fertility yoga

It’s a thing! We found some fertility yoga videos on YouTube and did them daily throughout the TWW. The poses are catered to not put stress on the body, but to instead ‘warm’ the womb, stretch and relax you. Well worth it, and a fun 20 minutes to set aside all day!

6. Womb dancing

And finally, we would dance around the kitchen together to George Michael’s ‘Faith’ (his documentary had just come out, and it seemed relevant!). It was lots of fun and made for wonderful memories later on, the dancing (Sarah made sure to do some hip rolls!) helped warm the womb, and best of all, it made us laugh, which is so important during this often stressful time.

The TWW is a time of anticipation at what’s to be and excitement, but also of anxiety and stress, and it can seem to be the slowest two weeks of your life. As well as the above to help implantation, we found making the most of that time to be the best way to get through it. Plan date nights or days, go on family walks, pamper yourself, read a new book – distract yourself from the impending date, and make some fun memories on the way.

Did you do anything more or different than the above to try to get that baby to ‘stick’?

If Covid-19 has taught us anything it is to appreciate where we live, even more. This year we have been to see the lavender in The Cotswolds, the sunflowers at our local farm and the Confetti Fields in Wkye Manor in Worcestershire. It turns out flowers fields have a few benefits as days out with a toddler. Firstly they are wide open spaces, perfect for running around. Secondly they have beautiful flowers which mean you can distract a toddler with pretty colours. Thirdly they tend me cheap and have space for a picnic so it’s a cost effective day out.

The Confetti Fields started in 1997 and grow flowers that become natural, biodegradable confetti that can be used at celebrations – especially weddings! Our trip was on a hot August day as the fields opened later this year than usual. Our first visit was in 2018, two days before Annabelle was born.

Life with a toddler is never dull. That is in part because they are full of energy. Part because the energy required to keep up with them means you never sit still. We find that we are best with Annabelle when we have a plan. That’s not to say every minute is planned for but that we have a general plan.

Annabelle normally naps for an hour and half – two hours at lunchtime. That means our plans have to be morning plans or afternoon plans. Usually they end up being afternoon plans as neither of us are great at getting moving 🙂

As lockdown restrictions are being eased we are trying to take advance of getting out and about more. With the weather looking okay we decided to check out Balsall Heath City Farm. You can check out their website here.

The farm opened in 1980 as an inner city oasis to give children access to animals they might not otherwise get to see. There are over 50 animals on the farm, a great vegetable patch and plenty of other things to see.

The devastating news of Naya Rivera’s death has hit us hard. For anyone, like us, who loved Glee Santana was a such a huge part of the show. Together with Heather Morris, Naya was a visible lesbian character in a huge TV show that we could relate to. From the outpouring of posts I know the sadness we feel at the awful news is something felt by so many.

Seeing one particularly heartfelt post by a fellow lesbian reminded me that way back when we had written a post on Britanna (the characters in Glee). Re-reading the post was like re-reading a diary entry. A diary that was full of the future we hoped for, the future we are in now. You can see how accurate our predictions were in the post below. The original post was written in November 2011.

Just like Annabelle is two.

Okay we may have said that already. Our girl turning two has been a big event in our household. As Annabelle’s birthday turned two on a Thursday we had 3 days of celebrations.

We also put together a video of her last year. It’s half an hour long (in case you want to watch it) but there were just so many highlights.

Just like Annabelle is two.

Our little lady is a joy. Over the last year she has become a confident, independent, funny, cheeky, determined whirlwind. A fan of routine and making us laugh. Forever playing peek-a-boo and asking to be chased she is ready to entertain and laugh. Her speech has come on leaps and bounds and she knows enough to tell us exactly what she wants and how.

She is happiest with both Laura and I around but she’ll welcome guests and often insists on saying hi to everyone we meet.
We can’t wait to see what she’ll be like going back out into the post Corona world. One things for sure we will miss her constant presence when she’s at nursery (even if it is just for one day a week). She’s great fun to be around and one of my absolute favourite people in the world.

2020 has been a difficult year for pretty much everyone. For me, I lost my Mum, my Pop (Mum’s Dad), which particularly stung as if we’d been able to go to Australia for Mum’s celebration I would have seen him and introduced Annabelle to him. We then set out on our journey to give Annabelle a sibling, and I found out that I don’t have enough eggs to do IVF to carry a baby that is genetically mine. Not a great start.

On top of this, I had a lot of weight to lose, to get myself healthy to get pregnant and to carry a baby. As an emotional eater, this was a nightmare! But yet, I have the ultimate motivation – to get pregnant. It was a now or never situation for me, as it would have been easy to just ask Sarah to carry it, as she did it so well last time. But I REALLY want to experience pregnancy. I am not sure I’ve ever been this motivated for anything, and I’m not sure I will again – but as of yesterday, I officially lost 70 lbs, 5 stone, or 35 KGs!

I thought I’d write a post on it to say how I did it, as it may help others, and honestly I want to remember so I can do it again if needed!

Happy Pride!

As an LGBT family we are very grateful for the online community that we have joined and created. When we first launched our blog in 2011 we were aware of a few lesbian couples. That was it. We started with an aim to share our life, our experiences and our challenges. Initially for our family but over the years our community has expanded.

For anyone who has joined us for the whole journey you will know that things haven’t always been easy, but looking back it’s been an amazing journey. We have had experiences we’ve learnt from, some that we have grown from and others that we have been lucky enough to have. The one constant has been the fact that we have been fortunate enough to have our experiences at a time when the LGBT community has had more rights that we have ever been before.