On October 6th 2020, we had a scan at our fertility clinic when I was 8 weeks pregnant, where we were told that our embryo’s heart had stopped bleeding. We were experiencing a missed miscarriage.

We were shocked because I had strong pregnancy symptoms – nothing had told me that my embryo had stopped growing. I was told to call my GP to get an appointment at the Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit – which I did, for the following Friday. In the meantime, the clinic told me to stop my medication, and wait for the inevitable.

I googled frantically, having no idea what a miscarriage would entail. I suddenly realised, there isn’t a lot of information out there on what physically happens, what it feels like, etc. There wasn’t a lot out there, except one woman’s experience on a blog which I found really helpful. So I thought I’d write mine out too- not focusing on the emotional toll of a miscarriage, but on what actually happened.

For the most part, things continued as normal for that week. I had quite bad nausea, which seemed pretty unfair considering my baby had stopped growing, and I was very upset. On the 9th October I went into the Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit at Birmingham Womens Hospital, where they re-confirmed what the clinic had told me had happened, but because the embryo was so small, it is procedure to wait 7 days to double check. So they booked me in for a follow up scan for the following Friday, where they would give me the options for a procedure had the miscarriage not resolved naturally. I remember sitting in the waiting room with two other women who were discussing why they were there, and being so jealous that these ladies probably weren’t going to lose their babies (I don’t remember the reasons but they were minor).

***This next bit gets graphic, so stop here if queasy!***

It feels weird writing this post. It seems like we have been talking about Baby Smith Number Two for so long. In fact at times the preparation to get to this day had seemed overwhelming. For those of you following along you may have read the posts, if not here’s a quick breakdown of the journey so far:

  • Laura needed to get to a BMI of 35 to be able to try at the clinic we used to have Annabelle
  • We initially planned to try in May 2020 but Covid!
  • This time around it was meant to be Laura’s egg we were using – until we found out she was almost infertile
  • We decided to try Laura carrying my embryo in a Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET)
  • Laura lost 70 lbs to reach her BMI in time for us to have an appointment as soon as clinics reopened
  • Laura’s first womb check showed the lining is at 8.7cm but we can’t do the transfer till it was 9cm – second appointment needed
  • Laura’s womb responds to medicine and gets to 9cm
  • We found out that the clinic would start to let partners into the operation theatre mid-August
  • Our transfer day is the 25th of August – I can be there!


The 2WW (Two Week Wait) from implantation until being able to test for pregnancy can seem like the world’s longest time. Waiting, hoping, wondering, wishing, there is so much emotion that goes into it, and it’s so hard knowing there isn’t much that you really can do to determine the result.

Of course, after throwing so much time, money and heartache into IUI and/or IVF, you’ll likely try any old wives tales, any advice going, that may help. So here’s what we did before our positive pregnancy test – disclaimer of course, none of this is at all proven to make a difference.

However, it can’t hurt, right? So here they are!

1. Pineapple core

Purchase a whole pineapple, and divide into 5 sections. Eat one section per day, starting on the day of implantation (or day of insemination if you aren’t doing IVF). The core of the pineapple is most important to eat, this is said to promote implantation.

2. Brazil nuts

Eat 6 Brazil nuts per day for 6 days, starting on the day of implantation. Brazil nuts are an incredible source of selenium, which is a mineral that helps to thicken the uterine wall, and a healthy lining aids implantation. If you don’t like nuts, as my wife doesn’t, I recommend grounding them up and adding to smoothies – she barely noticed them! Which brings me to my next point-

3. Smoothies

Green smoothies! We packed those babies with the pineapple and brazil nuts as above, as well as a half orange for Vitamin C, banana for potassium, spinach for iron, oats and chia seeds – we got as many nutrients into Sarah as possible per day, and actually continued making and drinking smoothies for her whole pregnancy to try to grow a strong and healthy baby!

4. Rest

Shortly after implantation, within 2-3 days, I couldn’t stop Sarah from sleeping if I had tried. She would nap anywhere, anytime. We quickly adapted so S could nap whenever she felt the need – after all, your body needs lost of rest and relaxation to grow a baby in general! So we would recommend doing as much sleeping as possible.

Some of the naps feature in the funny video we put together you can see in this post.

One thing that had come up a lot in our research was that it was a good idea to keep the womb ‘warm’, and to keep blood flowing to and through it as much as possible. So we channeled that advice into our final two points, 5 and 6:

5. Fertility yoga

It’s a thing! We found some fertility yoga videos on YouTube and did them daily throughout the TWW. The poses are catered to not put stress on the body, but to instead ‘warm’ the womb, stretch and relax you. Well worth it, and a fun 20 minutes to set aside all day!

6. Womb dancing

And finally, we would dance around the kitchen together to George Michael’s ‘Faith’ (his documentary had just come out, and it seemed relevant!). It was lots of fun and made for wonderful memories later on, the dancing (Sarah made sure to do some hip rolls!) helped warm the womb, and best of all, it made us laugh, which is so important during this often stressful time.

The TWW is a time of anticipation at what’s to be and excitement, but also of anxiety and stress, and it can seem to be the slowest two weeks of your life. As well as the above to help implantation, we found making the most of that time to be the best way to get through it. Plan date nights or days, go on family walks, pamper yourself, read a new book – distract yourself from the impending date, and make some fun memories on the way.

Did you do anything more or different than the above to try to get that baby to ‘stick’?

The night before we met Annabelle we took time out to do the pregnancy tag for our YouTube channel. It’ so strange watching it back to think how much life has changed in 4 short weeks and yet how we still end every night as a family on our couch.

It’s fair to say that is exactly how we feel having Annabelle, she has changed things but fundamentally she has made our regular life better.

The last Baby Blog I did was just over a month ago, we had 7 weeks left to go and we had excitingly had a scan to see our little girl in 4D.

That time seems like a while ago now. Time is flying.

These last 4 week have been a whirlwind. You may have seen this post: Pregnancy in funny pics where I found a number of pics and memes that I felt really summed up getting to the end of pregnancy.

Or maybe you saw our Instagram getting filled with pictures of our maternity photo shoot?! If you didn’t you can check out the highlights here.

And there was the week that contained two Baby Showers – one organised for our family and friends and the other by my colleagues. Full details are here.

What none of those posts talk about are the rest of the baby drama that has been going on. It didn’t really ‘fit’ into any of the posts and to be honest it has been something we have been exclusively talking to our family and close friends about.

With 5 weeks to official due date I am well and truly in the third trimester, in fact I’m almost through the third trimester. That seems crazy!

I am feeling really pregnant now, a combination of my walk turning into a waddle, my belly becoming large enough to block every doorway and my ability to get up from the couch completely disappearing. That being said I am still feeling good and able to do my London office days – with a little help from Virgin Trains taking my usual 6 hours of travelling down to just under 3.5 (treble the price) but as work are paying I am embracing it for the short term.

It was actually just as I started the third trimester that I had the idea for this post. For some unknown reason I Googled ‘Third Trimester’ images, I think what I was expecting was to see image of how big our baby girl would be at the start of the third trimester, what I got was a little different….. (try the Google search if you get the chance)

In writing this I can’t believe we only have 7 weeks until due date…..7 weeks. Ever since the countdown hit single digits the reality of us having a baby has seemed crazily close.

As mentioned in our last Baby Blogging post week week 29 started with an Antenatel class, we had selected an all day option at Birmingham Women’s Hospital. Turning up at 9.30am on a Saturday was not ideal (although we appreciate early mornings are a thing of our future) but we quickly found the education room and met the tutor who instantly put us at ease.