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What does it mean to be American?

I found out this week that Annabelle isn’t eligible to carry on my American citizenship – simply because she is not biologically mine & I didn’t carry her. This is despite the fact that Sarah & I were legally married when we conceived her, & that we are both on her birth certificate.

I supported her and my wife throughout her pregnancy, I imagined what my daughter would be like, when she was born I cut her umbilical cord, changed her first diaper, & was in awe of how we created something that beautiful. I’ve been up in the night with her countless times, taught her new things, by now I’ve probably cooked her as many meals as Sarah breastfed her. In no way is she less my daughter because she isn’t of my blood – but yet, that’s what the American government believes.

Howdy, hello and g’day! How are we? Can you believe November is almost over, how did that happen?!

Anyways I stole the title of this post from an article I read in the Metro a while back but I thought I would write my own version as theirs was disappointing to say the least.

It is an almost undisputed fact (not alternative fact or fake news) that Lesbian Loving is the best, if you haven’t tried it I can’t recommend it highly enough but then I did get lucky!

Have you heard of 30 days of Pride?

In case you missed that June is Pride month you will have seen plenty of rainbows appearing all over the place to remind you. From brands avatars going rainbow to shops putting out ‘Pride’ ranges, companies decorating their windows with Pride decor to employees sporting rainbow lanyards you should have spotted a rainbow or two.
Well everyday is Pride in our house and we do what we can to to show how proud we are to be part of LGBT community as often as we can. It’s a big part of why we share our lives online, we want to show our lives are normal. That love is possible whoever you are. That families are not exclusively for heterosexual couples. That we exist every month not just in Pride month.
However for Pride month we decided to record a quick video answering the questions being shared on Instagram over this month.
Check the video out here.

With our 5th wedding anniversary coming up and June being Pride month, what better time to spread some love! When we a received an email from Jenny at LezBeGay with a solution for single LGBT people we thought it was an amazing idea and that now would be a great time to share it with you.

Why Is Dating Harder For LGBT People Today?

A 2011 report by the Williams Institute states that gay people make up 1.7 percent of the population. Separate those 1.7 percent down to gender preference, attraction and similar mindsets and what’s left for us gay folk? The pickings are slim as the numbers are not in our favour, with gay people outside of cities having the most challenging time meeting someone. Whilst we don’t have control over percentages of our existence, there are a few things that complicate things even further….

Since announcing our engagement last Christmas a few questions have been asked by pretty much everyone. The first is ‘where are you getting married?’ – that’s easy to answer – Idaho! The second is ‘oh why Idaho?’ That’s pretty easy to answer too – it’s beautiful, picturesque, more likely to guarantee sunshine (fingers crossed) and most importantly, Laura’s family and quite a few good friends are still there. The third question is then ‘who is wearing the wedding dress?’ That question is also easy to answer! Well, it is for us, but we thought we would expand on it here.

Sometimes in life we look at each other and can’t believe we got so lucky. Our lives since getting together have not always been been easy, in fact anyone who has followed our story will know that start was a little rocky but that said over the past few years we have taken some pretty big steps together and seen our lives improve dramatically.

Getting married was one of those significant steps and with it the official bringing together and uniting of our lives. We have always shared friends we met together but the wedding brought our old friends closer and into ‘our world’.

One of those friends is a wonderful lady called Kate. Her and Laura have actually been friends from childhood and we were lucky enough to live with her briefly when we moved to Oz in 2010. Getting to know Kate back then was great but it was after we left that our joint friendship flourished. She became a natural choice for both of us as head bridesmaid and it led to a part of our Idaho wedding speech that leaves me with a tear even now. ‘Laura was always my sister and while she was meant to marry my brother to make it official I am not sad that didn’t happen, in fact this way I get an extra sister’ (I may be paraphrasing).

Our time in Australia was split between staying with Kate in Sydney and with Laura’s family on the Central Coast. There will be posts to follow that highlight our goings on but as it is Valentine’s Day I wanted to share something so filled with love, so kind and so thoughtful that it should bring a smile whether you celebrate today or not.

On our return from the Central Coast Kate and her friend Mel had organised a Hawaiian themed party at her parents house. It would involve Kate’s parents, Laura’s parent (who were also out in Oz) and a few nearest and dearest. We had bought Hawaiian shirts especially and thought the day would be spent in the pool and with a true Aussie BBQ. The day did include that, and it was much needed as the temperature was well in the 30’s. However what we didn’t expect was that Kate was throwing us a wedding.
We will get the footage edited ASAP but here’s the scene….it’s hot. Like really hot as polyester Hawaiian shirts don’t breathe, and we have diet cokes in hand providing refreshment. We plan to jump in the pool imminently when Kate disappears, On her return Laura and I are asked to stand. Mel places veils on us and we are told we are getting married…..

Here’s the ceremony in full:

‘Today we are here to celebrate the return of some of our favourite people. Now seeing as we live so far apart and we don’t all get to see each anywhere near as much as we would like, we thought we would throw a party to able to celebrate all the events we have missed over the last few years. So, here’s to all the birthdays, Christmases, new year’s, Easters, Thanks giving’s,  Thanksmases, Australia days, fourth of July’s, St Georges days, Halloweens, labour days, Queens birthdays, anniversaries and the reason for us all being together last. A certain wedding in the mountains.

Now I told you both that Mel and I had been planning the ‘Welcome to summer tropical Hawaiian theme party’ for pretty much the last decade but it’s taken a super special occasion to make it happen. I also told you that we had tweaked the idea just a tad because you were coming.

Ladies and gentlemen, we give you the welcome to summer tropical Hawaiian wedding theme party!

Seeing as you got married in England and had your wedding in the states, we figured, why should Australia miss out on the love?!

So….    Clear throat.

Take it away Father Bob (Kate’s Dad).

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today in the presence of this flamingo to witness the super legal and binding wedding ceremony of our beloved Laura and Sarah. Part 3!

OFFICIANT: You fell in love by chance, but you’re here today because you’re making a choice. You both are choosing each other. You’ve chosen to be with someone who enhances you, who makes you think, makes you smile, and makes every day brighter.

You’re about to make promises to each other that you intend to keep. You’re going to vow to take care of each other, to stand up for one another, and find happiness in the other. You’re teaming up and saying to the other, “Every experience and photo I am going to have, I want you to be a part of.”

 (Vows)

Will you, Laura, keep Sarah as your favourite person — to laugh with her, go on adventures with her, support her through life’s tough moments (like having to eat Kate’s horrible pumpkin seed bread), be proud of her, grow old with her, and find new reasons to love her every day?

LAURA: I will.

Will you, Sarah, keep Laura as your favourite person — to laugh with her, go on adventures with her, support her through life’s tough moments (like SUP yoga), be proud of her, grow old with her, and find new reasons to love her every day?

SARAH: I will.

OFFICIANT: Will you, Laura and Sarah, be each other’s partners from this day forward? Will you bring out the best in one another, share your happiest moments together, and love each other absolutely — for the rest of this lifetime and for whatever may come next?

LAURA AND SARAH: We will.

(Ring Pop exchange)

OFFICIANT: Rings have been chosen for you to wear rings as a reminder of these promises. People often say wedding bands are a perfect circle, with no beginning and no end. But these rings did have a beginning. They’re adjustable so have a gap at the back to start with. Like you two, they’re also as solid as a rock. Although it’s more rock candy than an actual rock but hey, you’ve already got rocks on those fingers and these ones are way bigger. They will also have an end as they are sweets so will probably be eaten by the end of the day. What you should take from these rings is that it is important to be solid in your love for each other, to be sweet to each other, to be flexible for one another and to always bring a smile to each other’s faces.

Final words.

Laura and Sarah, we have watched you grow together over these last two years and can’t imagine either of you without the other now. May your love always be celebrated by those around you. The first wedding was legal, the second was enchanting, but hey, the third times a charm. And now by the power vested in me by Kate telling me I was going to be officiating, I now pronounce you wife and wife. You may kiss your bride.’
And just like that, in between the tears we were married in Australia, our home for 2010. We can’t thank Kate enough, for the wedding, for the amazing words, for the thoughtfulness and for the love and kindness she is always so ready to give. This wedding, along with our other two, will be remember always. We really are lucky ladies.

We then jumped in the pool – not something that happens on most wedding days i’m guessing but much needed on ours.
Valentine’s Day should be a reminder that love is not something that only occurs between a couple, love really is all around us. Whether you celebrate Galentines with your girlies, Gayentines or any other form of Valentine’s remember love is inclusive, if you give love you are never alone. Just remember to tell those that you do love – actions may speak louder than words but it’s always nice to hear.

So with that ‘Happy Valentine’s Day – we love you’.

Santorini is beautiful, so if you are lucky enough to be heading there on holiday, you won’t be disappointed. Our week on the island was more than enough time to get around to all the main towns and fit in a few days of sunbathing and soaking in the relaxing atmosphere.

It doesn’t matter where you stay or what time of year you explore Santorini, it is jam packed with things to do and places to see. This is a short guide to the key towns / villages we came across to help make you mind up on where to stay….or help plan your up and coming trip.