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If Covid-19 has taught us anything it is to appreciate where we live, even more. This year we have been to see the lavender in The Cotswolds, the sunflowers at our local farm and the Confetti Fields in Wkye Manor in Worcestershire. It turns out flowers fields have a few benefits as days out with a toddler. Firstly they are wide open spaces, perfect for running around. Secondly they have beautiful flowers which mean you can distract a toddler with pretty colours. Thirdly they tend me cheap and have space for a picnic so it’s a cost effective day out.

The Confetti Fields started in 1997 and grow flowers that become natural, biodegradable confetti that can be used at celebrations – especially weddings! Our trip was on a hot August day as the fields opened later this year than usual. Our first visit was in 2018, two days before Annabelle was born.

Life with a toddler is never dull. That is in part because they are full of energy. Part because the energy required to keep up with them means you never sit still. We find that we are best with Annabelle when we have a plan. That’s not to say every minute is planned for but that we have a general plan.

Annabelle normally naps for an hour and half – two hours at lunchtime. That means our plans have to be morning plans or afternoon plans. Usually they end up being afternoon plans as neither of us are great at getting moving 🙂

As lockdown restrictions are being eased we are trying to take advance of getting out and about more. With the weather looking okay we decided to check out Balsall Heath City Farm. You can check out their website here.

The farm opened in 1980 as an inner city oasis to give children access to animals they might not otherwise get to see. There are over 50 animals on the farm, a great vegetable patch and plenty of other things to see.

The devastating news of Naya Rivera’s death has hit us hard. For anyone, like us, who loved Glee Santana was a such a huge part of the show. Together with Heather Morris, Naya was a visible lesbian character in a huge TV show that we could relate to. From the outpouring of posts I know the sadness we feel at the awful news is something felt by so many.

Seeing one particularly heartfelt post by a fellow lesbian reminded me that way back when we had written a post on Britanna (the characters in Glee). Re-reading the post was like re-reading a diary entry. A diary that was full of the future we hoped for, the future we are in now. You can see how accurate our predictions were in the post below. The original post was written in November 2011.

2020 has been a difficult year for pretty much everyone. For me, I lost my Mum, my Pop (Mum’s Dad), which particularly stung as if we’d been able to go to Australia for Mum’s celebration I would have seen him and introduced Annabelle to him. We then set out on our journey to give Annabelle a sibling, and I found out that I don’t have enough eggs to do IVF to carry a baby that is genetically mine. Not a great start.

On top of this, I had a lot of weight to lose, to get myself healthy to get pregnant and to carry a baby. As an emotional eater, this was a nightmare! But yet, I have the ultimate motivation – to get pregnant. It was a now or never situation for me, as it would have been easy to just ask Sarah to carry it, as she did it so well last time. But I REALLY want to experience pregnancy. I am not sure I’ve ever been this motivated for anything, and I’m not sure I will again – but as of yesterday, I officially lost 70 lbs, 5 stone, or 35 KGs!

I thought I’d write a post on it to say how I did it, as it may help others, and honestly I want to remember so I can do it again if needed!

Happy Pride!

As an LGBT family we are very grateful for the online community that we have joined and created. When we first launched our blog in 2011 we were aware of a few lesbian couples. That was it. We started with an aim to share our life, our experiences and our challenges. Initially for our family but over the years our community has expanded.

For anyone who has joined us for the whole journey you will know that things haven’t always been easy, but looking back it’s been an amazing journey. We have had experiences we’ve learnt from, some that we have grown from and others that we have been lucky enough to have. The one constant has been the fact that we have been fortunate enough to have our experiences at a time when the LGBT community has had more rights that we have ever been before.

As you may or may not be aware I have been working from home for over 4 years. When Covid-19 hit and self-isolation was ordered it was, in some ways, business as usual for me. In fact 93% of my company were working from home with 3 days of the announcement.

Don’t get me wrong things are different. There are no trips to my office booked. No meetings in the calendar. Or quick trips to the shops to break up the day. There is less to talk about on calls – no ‘what are your weekend plans?’ or ‘what did you get up to?’ I mean don’t get me wrong there are still things going on but we are two weeks into isolation and things are starting to get a little quiet.

Work however is busier than ever.

It’s the little things that I find help when working from home. Now I don’t want to overload you with advice as I’m sure anyone new to working from home will have had plenty of it recently. However here are my suggestions for for making things a little easier.